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End Lifelong “Not Good Enough” Feelings

You’ve carried this feeling for decades — the quiet belief that you should be more, do more, prove more. It’s time to lay it down.

A trauma-informed pathway back to authentic self-worth for high achievers who’ve excelled everywhere except inside their own hearts.

The Moment Everything Changed

I grew up feeling unwanted — not because anyone said the words, but because the emotional chaos around me taught me to be strong before I was ready. Achievement became a survival strategy, perfectionism my armour, and over-responsibility my identity.

In my late thirties, everything shattered. One day, I looked into my children’s eyes and saw something that broke me — a silent plea for safety. Something in our home had become deeply unsafe, and they were shrinking in fear.

Leaving was a really tough decision — and the beginning of my becoming. One layer at a time, I dismantled the old identity built on “not enough.”

And then Ayahuasca entered my life.

It didn’t “fix” me — the work was already in motion. But it wove the threads together. The feeling of not being enough finally dissolved.

“Not Good Enough” Isn’t a Thought — It’s an Imprint

High achievers don’t struggle with worth because they lack evidence of success — they struggle because the emotional blueprint was written long before success existed.

  1. The Shame Root — the earliest moments where love felt conditional.
  2. The Perfectionist Protector — “If I do enough, maybe I’ll be enough.”
  3. The Internal Critic — a voice that evolved to keep you safe, not small.

This is why affirmations alone don’t work — you don’t think you’re unworthy. Your body learned it first.

What We Do Together — Stabilize, Illuminate, Embody

Stabilize (Weeks 1–6)

  • Nervous-system mapping of your worthiness triggers
  • Release the fight-flight patterns beneath perfectionism
  • Somatic practices to soften shame and internal pressure
  • Foundations of trauma-informed self-worth
  • Building emotional safety into daily life

Illuminate (Weeks 6–10)

  • Identify the core childhood decision: “I am not enough”
  • RTT/NLP belief rewiring
  • Optional plant-medicine retreat
  • Inner child repair & emotional re-parenting

Embody (Weeks 10–14)

  • Identity-level self-worth
  • Release of perfectionism armour
  • Stronger boundaries, authenticity
  • Ending chronic self-criticism

You don’t become worthy — you remember you always were.

Ready to feel like you are finally enough?

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Frequently Asked Questions — Self-Worth & “Not Good Enough”

Why do I feel “not good enough” even though I’m successful? ↓
Because the wound predates your achievements. Success doesn’t heal early emotional imprints — it protects you from feeling them. Many high achievers build entire identities around compensating for childhood shame, emotional neglect, or conditional love. The external success makes the internal pain invisible. BPR helps bring these two worlds back into alignment through trauma-informed self-worth work.
Is perfectionism actually a trauma response? ↓
Yes — in many cases it is. Perfectionism emerges when children learn that mistakes are unsafe, emotions aren’t welcome, or love is earned through achievement. The adult “drive” is really a nervous-system survival strategy. In BPR, we don’t try to crush perfectionism. We learn what it protects — and then peacefully retire it.
Can “not good enough” ever fully go away? ↓
Yes — when you address it at the origin. Thoughts can be managed; identity can be strengthened; beliefs can be challenged. But the deepest transformation happens when the nervous system releases the old imprint and rewrites its baseline sense of safety. BPR uses a layered approach: somatic repair, belief rewiring, emotional integration, and lived embodiment. That’s what makes the change permanent.
I’ve tried therapy and affirmations — why didn’t it work? ↓
Because techniques that work only on the mind cannot reach beliefs stored in the body. Self-worth lives at the intersection of memory, emotion, and nervous-system conditioning. BPR works with all three:
• the story (Illuminate)
• the body (Stabilize)
• the identity (Embody) This is why people experience breakthroughs that traditional approaches couldn’t unlock.
How does coaching help with lifelong worthiness wounds? ↓
Because “not good enough” is not a psychological flaw — it’s a relational injury. And relational injuries heal in safe, attuned, consistent relationships. BPR coaching provides emotional witnessing, nervous-system co-regulation, identity rebuilding, and behavioural reinforcement. It’s not talk-based; it’s transformational. This is why executives and high performers experience deep change quickly.
What if I’m afraid that without perfectionism I’ll lose my edge? ↓
You won’t. Perfectionism creates pressure, not excellence. When the internal critic softens, performance improves because energy is no longer wasted on fear, shame, or overthinking. High achievers become sharper, more creative, and more resilient when they operate from worthiness instead of survival.
How long does it take to end chronic self-criticism? ↓
Most clients feel the first shift within weeks. Full identity-level change takes 3–6 months depending on the depth of the original wound and the nervous-system patterns involved. “Not good enough” dissolves when:
• the body feels safe
• the old belief is neutralised
• a new identity is embodied BPR is designed exactly for this trajectory.